I have been married to my husband for well over three decades. We have two sons, one in his early 30s and the other in his early 20s. My husband “Gus” hates his sons with every fiber of his being. Gus destroyed their childhood by wanting nothing to do with them.

I have been married to my husband for well over three decades. We have two sons, one in his early 30s and the other in his early 20s. My husband “Gus” hates his sons with every fiber of his being. Gus destroyed their childhood by wanting nothing to do with them.

Dear Bad Cop: Try talking to your husband during a calm moment when your daughter isn’t around, and make sure you start the conversation by acknowledging you both want what’s best for her. Then, work together to create a basic set of rules you both agree to follow. Consistency is key.

Dear Annie: My husband and I have a 6-year-old daughter, “Eliza,” and we recently have not been seeing eye to eye in terms of how to handle discipline.

My oldest moved out and created a good life for himself. My youngest is still at home and desperately wants a relationship with his dad.

What would make a man hate his sons so much? My husband will absolutely not go to counseling as he doesn’t think this is a problem. Please offer some advice. My heart can’t take much more. -- Brokenhearted Mom Dear Brokenhearted: In addition to the way he treats your boys,

My oldest has moved out and created a good life for himself. My youngest is still at home and desperately wants a relationship with his dad. What would make a man hate his sons so much? My husband will absolutely not go to counseling as he doesn’t think this is a problem.

My husband and I have a 6-year-old daughter, “Eliza,” and we recently have not been seeing eye to eye in terms of how to handle discipline. For example, last week, when she refused to put her toys away after playing with them,